I'm not an expert, but perhaps you were crying because of your lover? You were doing a love spell to bring peace between you and your lover, and that may have triggered something in your brain that caused all those negative emotions to do with him spill out. I'm guessing this as you mentioned it was a "peace" bringing spell. If its not because of that, then I don't know. Sorry.
About the jasper stone.. that is most definetly strange. I have no idea how your father would tie in with a love spell as I don't know any of your personal buisness. It could be a gaurdian angel or a guide trying to contact you. Or your lover subconsiously is.
I would not recommend using an ouija board as they are rather unstable at best. I would recommend taking up meditation or using a pendelum if its your angel/guide. If you are truly worried about your lover and you think its him contacting through the stone to you, you should physically contact him. That is my opinion. Sorry if I got something wrong here, I'm new to the forums.