my daughter has two children who live with their father who hates me and my daughter and pushes this hate toward the children. the hate their own mother and now call her names. they will not talk to me and put all the blame on to me as well. the father is a very selfish man does not work lives with his mommy and takes food money 800 dollars. he has a new car and other toys and my daughter is sick and cannot work and wants any money that she may get. if she does to pay for the children. what can i do. I live in a different state. any ideas?