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Re: Help!!!!
By: / Novice
Post # 7
really suckie situation, but you have to tell them. they're responsible for you, and as bad as this might feel, you need to tell them. once you turn 18 you can do whatever you want, but until said time, they're responsible.

now, what you should do is find as much information about magic [and/or whatever religious path you follow if any] when you feel the time is right, sit them down and ask to explain yourself. calmly explain your belief, stress it's not evil, that there's no devil or evil being, it comes down to a person's intent. tell them why you choose to practice, and what you get out of it. try to answer all their questions, and provide sites/book sources for them to read themselves.

granted, not all parents are as understanding as mine is, i get that, but hopefully they'll listen to everything. try not to fight, or argue, you might get upset if they say no, but try not to yell and scream. if they do say no, accept it. paganism teaches if you're meant to follow this path, you will return to it. 18 might feel a long ways away, but in the grand scheme of things it really isn't. on the upside though, you can still study things that don't seem to be involved with magic.

if your parents say no, you can study history, herbalism, cooking, candle-making, stones and crystals, genealogy, you could start a garden, take up sewing, meditate, learn about your chakra's, and many other things. they seemingly don't have much to do with magic, but they're things that you'll need to know and work with when casting spells. you're not casting, but you can still do things that are similar.
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Post # 8
Such a beautiful choice of words
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Post # 9
It isnt bad hiding wat u like from ur parents if u know they are 100% against it most christians are but once ur on ur own u have no worry about parents controling wat u like
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Post # 10
i was in the same spot you were. i live in a really christian home and im the only witch. about three years ago i told them. they were mad, sad, confused, and all of that stuff. but they got over it and i think eventually realized that its what i beleive and its a part of me. they dont support it but they dont really bash it either. i live in a bible belt to. just be able to explain to them why you beleive and pratice it and all will be well.
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Re: Help!!!!
By: / Beginner
Post # 11
I remember when I first started I was really scared to tell my parents. Wicca is one of those things that is very misunderstood, people think its evil when its really a quite beautiful thing.

What I did, was gather the information I learned and put them into a little report like thing to explain what Wicca is then I gave it to my parents to read.
At first, they were worried and maybe even scared because they didn't understand it, but once they read about it they accepted it and now are very supportive with my religion.

Its a very, very hard thing to come out, so take your time. You don't need to rush it, if you explain it to them then they should be happy that you're making such a good step in life here and how much you will benefit from it. I wish you the best of luck
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Post # 12
Is the need of supplies the only reason why you wish to tell them? Perhaps make the supplies seem normal and not suspicious. For example, you buy a candle because "it smells nice" or "it would be a good decoration". Perhaps even go as far as to say "it reminds me of Jesus."
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Post # 13
I like Pyrr's idea. Buy candles because they "smell good" buy crystals because they are "pretty rocks" so on and so forth. I know what you mean about being afraid to tell your parents and if theyre anything like mine were growing up, they will hear none of it as soon as wicca or the word witch comes out of your mouth. Me I probably would have ended up on the floor if i told my strict christian parents I was interested in Wicca. Good luck.
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Re: Help!!!!
By: / Novice
Post # 14
Before you decide you really want to commit to this, I'm going to advise you do the same thing I was advised (and was the norm before). Spend a year or as long as you can bear doing nothing but reading and studying, don't practice until you know as much as you feel you can absorb and still feel confident in your decision... it could do everything from change the path you want to follow to help you decide if this is really for you.
Not to scare you away or anything, but as a choice closely tied to our spiritual lives. I hate to see these paths used as a form of menial entertainment or a form of game.
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Post # 15
I've heard of websites that help out with "coming out of the broom closest", so I'd look up some of those if I were you. Also, I would suggest finding some information on Christian magic and Christian wiccans. I'm not suggesting you take that up, but you could probably use those as examples to help your parents understand that magic is subjective.
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Post # 16
Thanks so much,everyone, your comments and suggestions are greatly appreciated. I will consider my options carefully.
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