I, too, have fibromyalgia. What a nasty disease. It gives much pain without showing itself in damage. Enough sleep, the right knid if sleep, is so very important. I find I need 9-10 hours, or I cannot function. Also, nutrition is very important. I have found foods that cause us great pain for a few days after eating them. Tomatoes was a big one. When I stopped tomatoes, my digerstion improved. And it seems to be different in all of us. I didn't eat spagetti for years because it, combined with sauce, just really upset my body. Also, anything that is hard to digest will cause irritable bowel symptoms, which in turn causes great distress and very much pain. I cannot tell you how upsetting it is when you don't know what is going on to cause the pain to be much more intense, and it turned out to be something I ate.
Relaxation is also so very important when you have fibromyalgia. Migraine headaches are another symptom of this awful disease. Learning the triggers that cause the headaches helps, as the right medicine applied helps the headache to not turn into migraine. So many symtoms from this disease makes it difficult for you and the doctors to find any relief through mendicines. I have ones I take daily, couldn't function without it. I also have strandby meds for those days that I call bad fibro days. We all have them. So in the relaxing part, its important to know what condition you are in to know what to do. A hug hurts. So that's out, except for those days when giving message greatly can help. Cayenne, just a little, in a carrier oil (i use olive oil as it absorbs rather than sit on top of the body) can be used a heating rub. Heat relaxes the muscles. Also I have found eucalyptus oil in a carrier oil helps with joint pain as a rub.
Then there are teas. Anything that helps to relax is helpful. Chamomile being the base, you can add mint for a very tasty tea. This tea with the mint also calms the digestive tract, which,in turn, helps the body relax, which helps the pain. I use combonation of prescribed meds and herbal remedies to be as calm as possible. There is more info, but it will require a book. lol I have been dealing with this disease way before they even had a name for it. Was officially diagnosed with it in 1996. I do hope this helps in understanding the disease and some remedies that has worked for me. Rest is the most important, believe me. Blessed Be...