Ok, basically, the story is as follows. We have known each other since we were like 13 (we are both now 27). We have always lived in the same area and he has always said he loved me from the first moment he saw me, although he never made a move because he was scared i would reject him. He put me up on this pedastal and i do believe he has always loved me. He remembers the first time we met, what was said, what he was wearing, etc etc. Because he thought he would never get me, he went for the girl that looked the most like me (the one im now talking about). for her it was her first time for everything. Time passed and we ended up working for the same organisation. We clicked then and things went from there. He left her because he said he had finally got me and so on and so forth. (They already had a 4 year old son). When she found out about us, she lied and told him she was pregnant to get him to come back and try and work out their relationship, which he did. it's only then that she fell pregnant, myself not knowing that i was already pregnant. (Her child is 2 months younger than mine). When he found out i was pregnant he was overjoyed and came back to me and we were ok for a time. Everything was wonderful. She carried on texting and calling and threatening to kill herself, which she is still doing. Because we felt sorry for her, I allowed her to come to our house one day (this was after the kids were born) so that he could spend time with his kids together. Since that time, things kept going downhill for us. (I dont know whether she used something or did something while she was in my house). He has never abandoned his children though on both sides, that is the good thing about him. He knows he has responsibility on that part. I think on his part he is confused and he feels sorry for her, because she didnt actually do anything wrong for the relationship to end you know. so now he feels bad and she plays on that by telling him that she cant cope and (she lives with her mother) that her mother mistreats her and doesnt give her food and she doesnt have time to have a shower at night and stuff. I dont know how much of this is true, but anyway thats also what is making things harder. He thinks he should be helping her more and even if i dont mind that, there are other ways we could be helping her. But she also needs to understand that she needs to stand strong and try and get on with her life, instead of doin all these things. I know some people look at me like im some sort of house wreaker, but im really not. I truly love the guy with all my heart, but i dont know what else to do to help our relationship. I still believe it was fate that eventually brought us together and that we are meant to be together.
Thats the basic story i guess.