Every problem u have with other people, everything that bothers you about others, is actually a problem in you. You dont know it, but it projects itself and u can see it in other people. Once u realize the problem is in you, once u get conscious of it, it simply disapears, since u have solved it, it doesnt project itself in the outside world anymore.
That is a good look on things but, one hand does not clap, going around telling people that is not always the best idea, i am up for honesty but not all the time because someone has an issue with you means its your fault, some times that person has to look inward and stop making an issue of nothing.
if someone has an issue with u, the problem is in them, if u have an issue with someone the problem is in you, u do not see it directly in you but the problem projects itself and u see it in other people. The second u realize it, the second the problem dissapears.
I'm not sure about the statement "If someone has a problem with you, the problem is in them".
If you run into a decent amount of people who have the same issue with you, odds are it's actually you with the problem and them with the unwillingness to want to be subjected to it.
I don't think I'm angry at the smelly homeless lady asking for money and standing to close to my children while doing it, because I'm mad at myself. I'm pretty sure I'm mad that she asked my small children for money before turning her attention to me.
The way you wrote this, while it seems like it could be of use to some people, looks like a cop-out to me. "You don't like me because of an issue within yourself. Figure it out and you'll love me".
When i was a kid my mom and i used to fight all the time, about small things, but we screamed at each other, one day when i was at magic school, a man from my spiritual family said to me every problem u have projects itself onto the outside world, u see it in other people but u dont know it. So i thought and i thought untill i found the answer, the problem was indeed in me, i wanted to beat someone who is better at me, hence the fighting with my mother all the time, once i realized it, the problem vanished, i stopped having that same desire, and everything was okay.
Today, problems dont exist for me, only challenges, im not bothered nor i waste my nerves on people different than me, i go through life open-minded about everyone.
Why would u be mad at yourself samandriel, looks to me like u need attention, so when the homeless lady turned to your kids, it bothered u.
well i simply meant to say it can go both ways, as i said one hand does not clap, you alone can't have the world of faults, learning to balance your self with others is part of life but good is it, its not always their problem and its not always yours.
...I wouldn't be mad at myself over the homeless lady. That was my point. If you think the example I gave is a sign of me needing attention and THAT'S why I was upset that a woman approached my children under the age of 10 to beg for money, I'd say it's clear you are not a parent.
Point being is that not every single issue is a manifestation of some inner issue in which you are to blame. Sometimes, people are just ridiculous in comparison to your personal moral code or belief structure. That doesn't mean you are in the wrong and need to do some soul searching. Just that the world is diverse and you can't get along with everyone.
actually i think we all can get along, it may not seem so now, but as we grow we learn to understand that sometimes we are little to blunt and need to calm our tongue, or sometimes we need to spice it up lol but in all once we grow and open our hearts its a simple matter of time before we all learn to work together despite different ideas personality culture etc
oh but it is pureindigo, everything that has ever happened to you, everything that surrounds you, everything that u are now, at one point in your life started as a thought. Dont u know how things in this world are manifested? Dont u know The thought process? Dont u know how this world really works?
@samandriel. This is not about your children, this is not about a homeless beggar, this is about you. U are honestly telling me that the action of that beggar did not create a spark in you. Think about it open-mindedly. Dont assume you are right and i am wrong. Be curious like u are investigating. Do you not find that you do not like it when someone does not pay attention to you?
mayday do you really believe that sam and i are so badly off that all our problems with people is our fault? really? well if you believe that then you will be a slave to what the world calls you, i am not saying that its not sometimes your issue but you have to know when its negative energy being directed at you.