I love pendulum divination! XD I've put your stuff in brackets for ease of answering.
[ Its a dragon claw holding a sphere of its either Lapis Lazuli or turquoise, im not too sure. ill put a pic on my profile if u guys wanna see. So im using that. my first question...is that okay to use as a pendulum? ]
~ Yup, this is fine! Lapis Lazuli is great for divination and general psychic enhancement. Turquoise is associated with the Throat Chakra, which governs communication, so both are great stones to use. I'd love to see a pic :D I can probably help you figure out what it is, too.
[ my second question is, is it okay to keep the pendulum in a pouch that has an amethyst crystal and a blue goldstone and a gold goldstone? is this okay to do? will it mess anything up? ]
~ Amethyst is a great stone for lending energy to/charging other stones. Goldstone is manmade, a type of glass. You could still charge the gold and blue pieces for purposes related to their color. Like Blue could be spiritual communication, and Gold typically represents power, the heavens, beauty, and you could use it as you see fit. All 3 are nice to include in a pouch with the pendulum, just remember to cleanse them all periodically.
[ and my third question, how can i meditate with the pendulum to feel more connected to it so i can get more accurate answers? right now when i ask it something, like give me a yes answer it gives me my yes answer but if i ask it to give me a yes answer again, it changes based on what i tell it to be...so i dont know if its the pendulums answer or what my mind is telling it which way to hang? ]
~ I'll answer these questions in reverse order: Pendulums work by a combination of subconscious and involuntary muscle movements and by the energy you channel through it. It is important to detach oneself as far as possible from the desired answer. The pendulum is most likely swinging so many different ways because you are focusing too much on the answer that you already know. Like, asking ''Is my name [your name] ?'' you already know the answer, and so you are expecting that YES. Try testing the pendulum by grabbing a random crayon from a bag and asking ''Is this a blue crayon?'' and see what it gives you. Keep testing it with different crayons/colors. Give it questions you don't necessarily know the answer to, but you can easily verify.
As for meditating with the pendulum, some people believe a spirit is attached to their pendulum who works with them, others believe they channel God, or their higher selves, a spirit guide, whatever. Some people believe it brings out ones own psychic vision, so determine what you believe and meditate in a way to bring you closer to its source. You can sit quietly and just hold the pendulum, feel its color washing over you, feel it vibrate or glow with warmth and light. Or maybe you think it gives off a cool vibe. Try to see the pendulum in your mind's eye, watch it and listen to its voice.
Remember to cleanse the pendulum before every use, after as well if you feel the need. And give thanks to energies you worked with. Even if you believe it was just your own psychic ability developing, pat yourself on the back and feel good about what you accomplished.
Hope this helped! Feel free to ask my rambling self to clarify anything. XD