When Asking for a Reading By: Mz.Kalamity / Novice
Post # 1 Apr 20, 2015
When Asking for a Reading
Readings are a good way to get insight and advice in many areas of our lives, and in finding certainty in in our darkest moments. Today giving and receiving readings both for hobby and for profit is just as popular as it has always been in the past. With as many different forms of readings and policies varying from reader to reader, it is understandable that most people searching for readings don't know how, or what to ask and what to expect in the readings that they receive. So here are a few rules of thumb to keep in mind when asking for a reading that will aid in making the process more smooth and enjoyable for both you as the client and the reader.
Preferences
Your first thing should be to check the profile of the reader to see what it is they offer as far as reading concern (if they are indeed giving readings at all) and what kind of information they need from you. If their profile doesn't specify, be sure to ask them what they need and what options they offer. Ask them what you should be able to expect from them if you are unsure about the kind of answers you might get.
Does and don'ts
-Be courteous in your request. The reader does not owe you a reading, being demanding will not get you anywhere with anyone, save for make the reader deny your reading
-Research reading types and what to expect
-Be serious in your request, most readers look at readings seriously and not as an object of entertainment or frivolity.
-Harass your reader if they don't respond right away. It is likely that they have other requests as well as a life outside of readings.
-Don't be vague with the information that pertains to your reading. The more you give your er about your situation the clearer and more information they can glean from their medium. The more specific you are, the more specific your reader can be. Also, readers don't think it is funny if you think they should see everything about you. It doesn't work like that. (Example: if wanting a reading about your love life, be clear on whether or not you are in a relationship, or what aspects of the relationship you want read.)
-This doesn't mean you have to give your reader your whole life story. Nor should you give out information you feel you don't want others to know. You are entitled to privacy.
-Some readers like to have your name, a picture of you or your birthdate as a means of connecting to you for the reading, while not always necessary, it shouldn't be a big deal, if it is find a different reader who doesn't need them. THERE IS NO REASON YOUR READER SHOULD NEED INFORMATION SUCH AS LOCATION, MAILING ADDRESS, BANK INFO OR ANYTHING OF THAT NATURE. IF THEY ASK FOR IT, CHANCES ARE THEY ARE SCAMMING YOU!!!
-Make your desires known. What topic you want the reading to be about, what information you want covered. Your reader should not have to play 20 questions with you in order to find out what you want. It is tedious and frustrating to readers.
-Readers are not an "all you can eat buffet" ask your questions, get your readings, be reasonable. Don't ask a question, have it read, then ask another question over and over.
-Some readers may ask for payment (depending on the site rules where they are offering. MAKE SURE YOU KNOW WHAT THE WEBSITE POLICIES ARE!!) Be sure to be clear with your reader as to what their expectations of you are before proceeding.
How to ask your question
Another thing most people don't properly know how to do is in phrasing their questions so that the reader can best answer them in the most clear way. Different forms of divination may also answer things differently. Here are a few thing to keep in mind while asking your questions to your reader.
-Yes and no questions are possible, but often difficult and limiting, especially through tarot or oracle cards.
-Ask open ended questions. (Ex. "If I do ____, what will happen?" "What can I expect from ____?" "What are my chances with ____")
-Stay away from questions that demand specific descriptions or numbers. (Ex. " what will my lover look like?" "How long should I wait for ___?" "How many kids will I have?"
-Ask questions that ask for advice on a situation rather than the outcome. (What can I do to solve ___?")
-Ask your whole question and related questions at once rather than asking a simple question then after receiving the reading asking "well what about ____?"
Re: When Asking for a Reading By: RhiSabelle / Novice
Post # 2 Apr 20, 2015
Great post :) I hope people read this when trying to get readings. I know a lot of the things mentioned here are things that I wish people would do/not do more often.
One thing though, and I believe it was a typo. "-Harass your reader if they don't respond right away." I'm pretty sure that should be "Don't" harass them.
Excellent post. This kind of information is always helpful.
The better informed a client is, the more they will get out of their reading.
All readers are different and using this information could help to find one which matches the clients needs better.
It would also be great if clients would understand that readers can advise and enlighten but will not make any life changing decisions for them.
Everyone has their own free will and must make their own choices.