Shakespeare once said, "Would a rose by any other name smell just as sweet?" Perhaps the man was correct in the thought that it doesn't matter what you call something, it still is what it is.
In the end, we are all who we are at our basest level. Beneath all the lies and the fear and the sickness, beneath all the hatred and despair and pain, beneath all the masks we hide behind to live in this world, beneath all of the foolishness and immaturity, beneath all that we pretend to be, we are still us. It takes a special kind of person in this world to see the real us beneath all of it, and be willing to put up with all of that superficial garbage. It takes a rare kind of person to awaken a will to change in those who are garbage on the outside.
It takes an even rarer person to want to change and to make the means to do so, and take the steps necessary.
Perhaps that is why it seems like the people in our lives never really change, or perhaps more accurately, we never see the changes in them because they are not important to see. Perhaps we are all so stuck in the past of people that we never let them live, that we never see people how they are. Perhaps we see, only what we want to see, a place for blame to be placed.
Yes, sometimes the blame should be placed on an individual, even to the fullest extent, if only to wake them up from the zombie they have become. And yes, we should be held responsible for our actions and our words, even those said in ignorance, arrogance, and plain old stupidity. In the end though, a person's sins can only be judged by themselves, and perhaps also by those they have hurt along their path to self discovery.
Sometimes, the path is long, and it hurts many people who cared. Sometimes, the path is full of pain and suffering for all involved, and the person is better left alone. Sometimes, the person realizes their mistakes, only by looking back at all they have done with a neutral eye; accepting no excuses for their behaviors, accepting no promises to change. Sometimes, they do change, just sometimes.
And so, I'll leave you with a song.
Never Enough by Five Finger Death Punch :