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There's this prevalent attitude I've noticed within covens that

a.) If you are not accepted into one, you don't get a message back letting you know, which leaves you to wonder for days "Have they not been online, or was I rejected?"

b.) If you get kicked out, they don't tell you why, even if you message them politely and ask. It leaves you wondering what you did wrong and anxious about joining another coven.

I guess what I'm getting at is- why? It strikes me as rude. It doesn't take any effort to simply type "Sorry, you haven't been accepted into this coven," and that little bit of effort can spare someone from a lot of anxiety. It would also be nice to get a "hey, here's a reason why you weren't accepted."

Maybe I'm still a little... bitter, for no better word, about being kicked out of my last coven. I made one post on the first day that was a simple introduction (I am positive I said nothing offensive or contrary to the group's core values) and then the next day I was removed. After being told in PM I "would be a good addition to the group", and for not having done anything wrong, it was confusing and upsetting.

When I messaged the group Priestess, I never got a reply and later found out she'd blocked me. I messaged the Priest too. He hasn't replied, and I still have to check and see if he blocked me.

My anxiety has been significantly worse ever since. I seriously have no idea what I did wrong. I did nothing offensive and broke no rules. My point is, if you're going to remove someone from a coven, tell them why, so they don't waste time agonizing over what they've done wrong. It's just being polite.