love ..very serious..

You have other opinions, they state solid foundations as well. Nekoshema suggested, good advice(as usual, haha) and Insertjoke stated doing a binding spell. Also no, i don't like being right over others? It just seems like you can't face the truth.

You do sound rather conflicted. You describe love for her, but then you turn around and say she's very evil and has affected your own health and sanity!

If I were you, really think about it without emotions in the way. If you love her, is it a healthy love if you also feel she is evil? She has wronged you multiple times. Message me. I'll losten, but magick will result in worse consequences. I've went through similar things. Maybe you should consider if you truly want her back first after wronging you. I know how love can remain despite any harm done, but it then turns into an unhealthy love that becomes built on a foundation of the need to fill a void and total anger. Magick isn't the answer, but maybe you can meditate on this problem for inner guidance. Mail me. You're not alone.

Sean,

I read more comments and you seem defensive. No one here is intentionally trying to hurt you. We're just giving our personal taste of our views. But, I feel as if you are waiting for a "new opinion" for it to be what you want to hear. I did that too. For more of my crazy situation, go to the top bar and type in SullenMoon. Dig through the forum posts until you find one about love. That was my old account. I acted the same way. Like they say, love blinds you. But you know what? When my traumatic relationship ended, I learned to never again believe in something blindly, such as the healthiness of one sided love. Please take care and keep in touch. Blessings!

When a woman uses you for another man it is time to move on. She doesn't see you in the way a lover would see you, so don't try and recreate yourself to fulfill her designated roles for you and her. This is her problem and not yours, you should just move on with life and find someone who can respect you.

Well said LunarGoddess, and Virtues

Typo alert! I meant to say "my belief that one sided love was healthy."

this whole thing has become rather pointless, since Sean is convinced and won't back down, we have given you our advice, it's your life, choose to do with it what you will. love comes in all forms, this is true, but i'm sad to say what you feel is not love, it's lust. the way you describe her, she only lusts for people, this isn't sustainable, this isn't love. it's the foundation for 'flings' not 'forevers'. i still say you should take some time to contemplate your situation and your true feelings [try making a T chart. make a list of pro's and cons. put the list away, then pull it out a week later, read the list, add/remove things you feel apply or don't. repeat two more times then make your decision]

if, when the dust has settled, you choose this uncertainty, then speak with her, but understand your future together will be an open relationship, or face a lifetime of cheating. i don't know your age, so it may simply be youth, but some people are polygamist and don't like to be tied to one person. if you want only her, but she wants you plus others, then this will always be shaky. [i'm not saying polygamist relationships don't work, but it is tougher than a monogamist one since you have multiple relationships and dynamics to consider daily]

finally, love is not about control. love [like magick] can be defined many ways, but love is meant to be safe, comfortable, complete you. if you are constantly worried, or feel ruled, this is not love. casting a spell to bring her back is to rule her because she is choosing you at gunpoint, not because she really wants to be with you. do you want to be with her knowing you're simply holding her hostage thanks to a spell? [because this isn't love] a cleansing, unbinding, and/or healing spell at this time can help. [even a divination] later, if she returns, speak to her about a spell the two of you can cast to keep you together, protect, or strengthen your relationship. casting over one person without the other is like taking out a loan and signing the persons name. they should know what you're doing because it's their life you're dealing with. [goodday Sean, i'm done, you don't have to hear me again on this thread]

Things happen, sometimes for the worse, but usually it is for the better. Your situation on one hand though, is not healthy nor, it it, even helping you, or anyone else for that matter.

I honestly couldn't help, but agree with the other posts! You did indeed ask for opinions, and when you were given them, you snapped back. Now look, i'm not trying to cause conflict, but this description of your, ''lover'' has put you in a trance, and a unhealthy funk.

Is it doing you any good?
I don't think so. I suggest talking to a therapist, and figuring out your feelings. Love is a joyful feeling, but your ''love'' is seemingly the opposite.

Your description makes you sound overall highly critical, this then creates unbalance, and negativity, around you, and this post included. You asked for the opinions, you got them. I take it, that it wasn't the ''correct'' answer, or ''assumption'' you wanted to hear. Which is okay! But this post and, feelings are just hurting yourself, as it is.

Along with the spell part, i noticed you wanted a ritual or, spell, to bring back the woman. Later on, you say she is evil! Or rude, and a evil woman, but heck, you go claiming you love her, again? I don't get it! Again, it seems like you don't know your feelings in reality. Doing a spell will bring Karmic Actions back upon thyself. You don't not want that, for it will makes things, only worse! Ask yourself these, questions.

* Why do i want to cast a spell?
* Am i awre of the course actions it will bring?
*How do i feel on the situation?
*Do i really love her, or am i being caught in a manipulated web?

As harsh as this may sound, face your demons. Your bringing negativity upon yourself, she is also doing that too. First instead of resorting to magic, face your truth, and think if any of this was your fault? It may be! Only once you face yourself, can you judge others.
Hope it helped!

I have read all the replies. Its hard to digest she used me. I think its deeper than that or maybe iam in denial. Iam very hurt. This was my first serious relationship. I appreciate all the help and advise offered. Just recently we had got back together and she wasnt using me for anything. Maybe she was just toying with me to hurt me.She made promises she didn't keep. I dont know if shes trying to make me jealous or what. Only she would know that.

Glad, to help. Keep trying!