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Re: how do I tell my family
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Post # 11

There are no Wiccan "bibles" although there are two books I know of by that name. They are no sacred writings but merely books about Wicca. "The Witches' Bible" by Janet and Stewart Farrar is a very good book on British Traditional Wicca. "The Wiccan Bible" by Gavin and Yvonne Frost is not a good book and portrays practices that are definitely not Wicca .

Here's some book titles that I suggest for anyone serious about their Wiccan studies.

"Wicca for Beginners" by Thea Sabin
"Wicca: A Year and a Day" by Timothy Roderick
"The Elements of Ritual" by Deborah Lipp
"Phoenix from the Flame" by Vivianne Crowley
"Devoted to You" by Judy Harrow
"Witchcrafting" by Phyllis Currott
"The Witches' God" and "The Witches' Goddess" by Janet and Stewart Farrar
"Witchcraft Today" and "The Meaning of Witchcraft" by Gerald Gardner (Every Wiccan should read these books by the man who started it all.)
"WitchFather" by Philip Heselton
"The Heart of Wicca" by Ellen Cannon Reed
"Wicca: The Old Religion In the New Millennium" by Vivianne Crowley
"Deepening Witchcraft" by Grey Cat
"The Study of Witchcraft: A Guidebook to Advanced Wicca" by Deborah Lipp and Isaac Bonewits
"Wheel of the Year: Living the Magical Life" by Pauline Campanelli and Dan Campanelli
"Celebrating the Seasons of Life: Beltane to Mabon" by Ashleen O'Gaea
"Celebrating the Seasons of Life: Samhain to Ostara" by Ashleen O'Gaea
"A Witch Alone" by Marian Green

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Re: how do I tell my family
By: Moderator / Adept
Post # 12

Before you try to tell your parents that you're Wiccan I suggest that you study for at least a year and a day to make certain, first of all, that Wicca is truly the path you wish to follow. And secondly, that will make certain that when they begin to ask you questions about Wicca you'll know enough about it to make solid responses. You might also get a copy of "When Someone You Love is Wiccan" by Carl McColman for some help in knowing how to respond to the common questions you're likely to be asked.

Then think long and hard about why you feel the need to tell your parents about what you believe. What will you do if they forbid you to continue your studies? What if some of your family won't have anything to do with you once they know you're Wiccan? Coming out of the broom closet should be considered very, very carefully before you do it as sometimes the consequences can be painful.

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Re: how do I tell my family
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Post # 13
But what if I worshipped a goddess from Egyptian and one from Greece. Would that work? Because I feel like I have a connection with both Hera and Bast.
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Re: how do I tell my family
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Post # 14
My final question. Why do most Wiccans and pagans mostly wear black? That's something that I've never understood. Should I wear black? If so, then why should I? Please respond!
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Re: how do I tell my fami
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Post # 15
I don't see why Graeco-Kemetic won't work. It's practically historical--check out the deity "Hermes Trismegistus".

As for wearing black, well, like most non-Wiccans who wear black, it's slimming, it matches with everything, and it doesn't show coffee stains. Some other Wiccans tend to go all loose cotton tie-dye blues and greens, the 1960's hippie aesthetic rather than goth. I haven't met or seen any Wiccan who combines both, but I'm sure they're out there. Still other Wiccans, I'm sure, dress like preps or business professionals or wear sweatpants and tank tops or jeans and hoodies depending on the occasion or whatever they feel like. If there's some sort of dress code or uniform for coven participation, I would think that's up to each individual coven rather than, "you're not allowed to be Wiccan if you prance around in a chintz sundress!" No, of course that's preposterous.
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Re: how do I tell my family
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Post # 16

It would be more accurate to say that "some Wiccans" wear black rather than that most do. There is no specific dress code in Wicca and you can wear whatever you feel comfortable in. You'll actually find only a few bits of black clothing in my closet and none of it is stuff that I wear for ritual.

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Re: how do I tell my family
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Post # 17
Thank you so much! This information is very helpful. That solves the black clothing mystery. I now also worship the goddesses Bast and Hera. You might already know them but I'll say who they are anyway.
HERA: Greek goddess of women and children. Protector of marriage.
BAST: Egyptian goddess of cats, can take forms of domestic cat, lion, woman.
Anyway, thank you guys so much! Blessed be
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Post # 18
I'm personally waiting until I move out of my house to tell my catholic family I'm Wiccan. Really hoping this isn't a phase!
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Post # 19
If you may feel that this maybe a phase, try taking some alone time to figure out what you feel is right for you. Wicca is not the only path you have to choose from there are many other paths you can follow along as well. Try to really look and feel within yourself what is right for you before making any decisions.
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