willing to listen?

Look up social anxiety disorder. Its quite common and usually doesn't need counseling or therapy.

It isn't that difficult of a problem to conquer. Its one of the few problems I do suggest going to your doctor for. My husband developed it due to military service. Our family doctor prescribed him a low dose of an anti-anxiety medication and had him take it for three months, then had him wean off of it. It began making a big difference after the first week and his progress continued after he stopped. Along with meditation and looking inward to overcome his fears he overcame the problem. (It took him 3 years to completely conquer it) but he is free of it and is actually extremely social now. There are also self-help books and free anxiety hotlines.

You're experiencing panic attacks. They can cause mood swings and outbursts randomly when you experience them chronicly. If not put in check, this can turn into agoraphobia which is far more difficult to overcome. So its best to nip it now before it turns into that.

i usually don't like taking medication,but i fear i have veryfew alternatives.I meditate alot lately,i switch of all my electronics and light,but i can always hear the noises,the neigbours watching tv,why do they need to put it so loud? I don't even switch the tv or the radio on anymore,any few seconds of queit i get i treasure.Isn't it possible to get over the counter anxiety medication before i have to go to a doctor?

This young man writes, in his profile, that he "likes smart people", likes "a fair amount of fun", and likes "open minded people". Then he says he will be moving to New York city. One of the noisiest cities on Earth.
What,exactly, is this young man's problem? Genuine? Or faking?

I get easier along with smart,open minded people those that aren,t considered loud.Plus its not a choice moving to NY,i did say dreaded.Please don't be mean to me

Oh,I wasn't being mean to you,lad! I was curious. Sometimes people post on this site because they just want something to say,or want attention. You say you like "smart" people, meaning intelligent. I find that intelligent people talk most! Really quiet people usually have nothing to say.
If you do have a problem with noise, ear plugs are pretty good, and mostly cheap.

i feel those that are the real intelligent people,are the ones that have nothing to say.They don't care if somebody sees their view on things.I see intelligent people as those that know better but don't go on about it on tv or so.Imagine the typical librarian,the quiet yet they usually have some knowledge.Earplugs won't work,im in a position where im relied on alot,if i weren't to comunicate i could lose my job,then id have to drop out of college.I have started breathing exercises,where i get a certain amount of time a day just for my self,in which i just relax and breathe,almost like meditation

Try researching and understanding Bio-polar ;)

You can try valerian for anxiety. It's used for sleep in higher doses so take the lowest dose first at night to make sure it doesn't make you drowsy and ruin your day, and increase dose a tiny bit if you don't find the effect you want. If you exceed 300 milligrams it becomes a sedative. If you want to use it as a sedative, 300-600 milligrams is the dose taken 1 hr before bed. It doesn't effect dreams or prevent you from waking up in the middle of the night (like some sleep aids).

It effects the same receptors as xanax without side effects or dependency. For anxiety 150-300 milligrams or 1/2-1 tsp fluid extract, or 1.5 tsp tincture. Valerian is not easily overdosed, even 20 milligrams is not poisonous, but I would never suggest it. Just because overdose can't kill you doesn't mean it won't make you feel terrible. Don't use it at all if you have a heart problem. And don't take it with other sedatives, narcotics (some pain killers are narcotics) or pentobarbital.

When picking out a valerian product, you need to look at its valerenic acid percentage. That is the stuff in valerian that makes it effective. When researched they used 0.8% in water soluble extracts.

The worst side effect is possible stomach upset or headache in high doses.

It is warming so it calms by increasing vascular circulation which relaxes your nervous system, therefore relaxes your muscles.

All of my info is based off of scientific studies and research from universities (predominantly British) and many many books I've cross referenced for accuracy. I created my own herbal medicine binder that I've used to collect information for years. I don't stop researching an herb until the information just repeats itself and I can't find anything new. If I come across a new study, I add the information if the source is superb.

thank you very muchWhiteraven,I'll be sure to get some of those.Im sure its going to help me alot.I doubt im bi polar,im depressed but more panic than sadness.Thanks anyway

You're welcome. Make sure to buy a good known brand. Quality counts.

Anxiety and depression have been discovered to have close ties. Many people who have one, have or develop the other. This is actually a recent discovery. But the anxiety here comes first therefore is the key factor. The depression is the reaction our body has after an upset. When we can't stop focusing on that upset (due to anxiety) we keep triggering depression. In my honest opinion, this "new discovery" is not knew at all. People have known this for years, someone just finally did a study on it.

Valerian can be used for both anxiety and depression.