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What should I do?
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Hi I'm new to all of this and I feel really bad about lying to my parents about this and going to church when I don't belive in it and I am so scared to do it and my entire family is very relegious and I don't know how they will react so plz post your coments thanks
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Re: What should I do?
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Religiousness doesn't mean you are intolerant first of all. Secondly...you don't have to change your faith to believe in magic. Your faith is your faith, you choose to change it. There are no restrictions beyond those you allow or you believe in. You determine your faith, not anyone else.

That being said, you can A. choose to hide your practice, or B. choose not to hide it. Most people hide it. I am of the opinion that we should never have to hide for your beliefs. But in the end it is your decision on what you do. Remember, once you officially become an adult (18 in the US) you can move out, get a job, and a place to stay, and then your parents can't prevent you from practicing.

That being said, for the time being stick to direct energy workings, or workings that don't require a lot of interesting materials. For instance, a sigil is a drawing...

http://www.spellsofmagic.com/profile.html?profile=93771&t=photo

...these are some of my sigils. You can always say "Mom, they are just doodles." And no, you don't necessarily need the circle around them, so the doodle story may very well hold up.

You can also do other things that won't be suspicious. Lol. It is all on you and what you are comfortable with. See how they would feel about it first. Bring up what you wish to follow in conversation and ask what your parents think of that. ;)
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sometimes we have to bite our tongue and keep things inside until the right time comes if you feel your are fearful not to say anything than listen to that and don't say anything, you will no the best time because you will not care what others think and that's growth.all in all we should be able to be what we feel we should be thou hey we live in a world of control and misconceptions of what religion is and they judge others faith, all we can do is wait till we reach the right age and tell them where to put there religion simple!
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Talked to my mom about what she thought about magic and lets just say I would be scared to tell her ad if my dad found out I really don't know what he would do but it would probably end with me doing something stupid and everyone getting hurt plus m mom couldn't keep her mouth shut about this to my brothers or sister or anyone at church and i'd get phone calls from people and it would be really awkward so I decided not to tell, but if you have any ideas to help me learn but descritly I would really appretiate it.
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Re: What should I do?
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Post # 5
don't worry
a religion is about forgivness
et b your family should accept that you belive
in ...
but if not the other comms are good too
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Re: What should I do?
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Post # 6
oh dear...
maybe you should hide it like me and wait for the right time
if your too frightened then maybe you should hide what you belive in until your eightteen
and then well they can't stop you
it was the same for me...
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Re: What should I do?
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Everyone looks for respect and acceptance from those we love. This is sometimes hard for people when we think that they may not accept what we are doing or believing.
No one knows what is really waiting for us or if there is a higher power "ruling" us.
You should feel comfortable in what you believe before confronting, as i am sure they will have a lot of questions.
There are many Christians who use "magick" in some way even if they do not realize. The most simple example are things such as praying, horoscopes, tarots, meditation etc.
There are many Christians who understand and are open to other ways of thinking. When you do tell your family just make sure that this does not change the person you are but will give you more of a wider out look on life.
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i told my parents that its who i am and if they dont like it its too bad
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Re: What should I do?
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Post # 9
It really depends on you. To some people being open with everyone is the most important thing, to other people it is not too big a deal. You say you would like to tell them, and you probably should if this will make you feel better, but always consider the consecuences, only you know your parents. They might react in an off way, and this might be a cause of pain in the up coming months, if you persist.
Look at your options, examine the pros and cons, what could happen and what could not, and take your decision. But remember rebelling oposition is not going to help you.
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Telling family depends more on what your more worried about: lieing to your family and having them not reject you (or making you move out if they would be that upset about it) or having them accept you and keep those relationships.

Honestly I have to keep it a secret from them or I would be kicked out before I can afford to move out on my own. It's just the situation I have myself in. If thats your situation keep it hidden. If you're fairly sure it isn't tell them about it. No more point in continuing to hide it.
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