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I NEED SERIOUS HELP!!
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I have a serious problem that people are probably going to judge me over, but here goes nothing. I have never told anybody about this, and I've had it since I can remember. My problem is that I hate being a girl and I have these horrible feelings when I look into the mirror every morning and hate myself for who I am. No matter how hard I try to be a girl, it never works. All I want in this world is to be a male. And the thing is that I know that I'm a girl and I know what my gender is, but it's so hard to live with this problem hanging over my head everyday. I would do anything in this whole entire universe to just be who I want to. If someone out there can help me, then please do. Thank You :(

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have you looked into gender reassignment surgeries?

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I have actually, but that's way too much money and I'm already struggling with that currently.

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i'm sorry to say magick can only get you so far it dosn't have the ability to change your gender and if you are serious about this then i recommend looking at your options in surgery and potentially your government may have a fund for people like you who was born the wrong gender and they may pay for your surgery and transition however be warned that such a process is a very long one and very tough so if you do go ahead with it then know all the consequences.

sorry to be the harbinger of bad news but i wish you the best of luck

TSilk1996


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Thank you for the helpful advice anyways. :)

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Kiddo, it sounds like you're transgender, which is absolutely fine. So am I, so I know what you're going through. Firstly, you need to accept yourself as a trans boy (aka a boy born as a girl.) You're not a girl, even if you were born as one. A good place to start after accepting yourself would be picking another name if your current one doesn't work as a guy-name. Maybe you should come out to a few close friends and have them refer to you by your new name and pronouns.

Magic can't change you physically, but it can change a few things. You can look into charms to help you deal with the weight of gender dysphoria (that hating-your-body-and-gender-thing.) You could also try out glamour spells to help others view you as more of a guy.

Gender-reassignment surgery is a big leap. Many people can't afford it, and not every trans person wants it, either. Until then, you might be able to afford a chest binder if you have a larger 'chest'. This will flatten it out and make you appear more like a boy. Underworks offers some basic + safe binders for around $30 online, and the shipping is very quick.

You could also look into getting your hair cut short and buying guy-clothes. There are tutorials online for lowering your voice and for make-up contouring that will make your face look more like a boy's. Maybe one day you'll even be able to be put on T (testosterone.)

I have much more advice than I can put in a small post. Feel free to message me whenever. I will respond as quickly as possible. You are not alone. The pain doesn't last forever.

In the meantime, you should check out these trans resources:

http://www.underworks.com/category/search/ftm/2?filter=&search=ftm&&keywordoption=ANY&cid=2&fltrdesc= (underworks chest binders)

http://www.advocatesforyouth.org/publications/publications-a-z/731-i-think-i-might-be-transgender-now-what-do-i-do (acceptance of your identity)

http://www.glaad.org/transgender/resources (resources for trans people in crisis)


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I'm sorry to hear of your dilemma, but as it's been said spells cannot change your DNA, so magickally our hands are tied. Surgery is your only option, but you could look into money spells to help draw money towards you to help with the surgery. Less costly you could dress like and identify as male. It's a step in the direction, however little. I hope everything works out for you.

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As a fellow member of the trans community, here is my advice:

Start your transition slowly. I know it seems like right now you want to fully be a girl, but a lot of people find transitioning too quickly causes more confusion and its harder for them. Some find that outwardly expressing their gender doesn't have to completely match what they feel, ie a girl with a beard.

Here's some pieces I have written on it you may find helpful as well as some articles from others:

http://www.autostraddle.com/ten-things-i-wish-id-known-when-i-started-my-transition-156538/ (someone else)

http://courtneysvoice.com/2015/09/06/transitioning/ (me)


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I dont think its that you hate i think you hate something else your a women thats that i find what you hate is if being forced in to choises that you cant control thats a little far to go to regain that control rather then wanting that accept youself find what you do like about your self what makes you and not of what could be but what is

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