Dear All
I will try to keep this short - I divorced an abusive alcoholic and was granted custody of my three sons, now aged 21, 16 and 14. Determined to cause me more pain and suffering, he followed us to our new home and new life I was creating for us and caused uncountable disruption and pain. The abuse continued and he bribed and brainwashed my sons to move in with him approximately 3 years ago. During these 3 very difficult years, I tried desperately to maintain contact with my children in order to protect them from him. Granted I should have approached the authorities, but everytime I tried, I was somehow blocked not only by the scars of the mental, verbal and psychological abuse of the past, but also the continuing threats and harassment and manipulation. Over the last year or so, I have become stronger in my faith and am now getting my life together. My youngest has returned to live with me, but this has not been smooth as the father still interferes. That was just the background to this, my most pressing concern... my children have fallen to the very thing I feared and I now need your help to help them. They are all too casual about alcohol and dabbling in drug-taking - some of you will recognise that this is often a symptom of being the offspring of an alcoholic and ofcourse this results in negative learnt behaviour and so the two younger ones in particular are extremely aggressive and abusive towards me when I try to lovingly intervene. They are also very protective of their father who constantly encourages them to disrespect and distrust me. I have been praying and doing candle rituals for their protection as well as chord cutting meditations on their behalf. Please, Please help me - advise on the most effect exercise - also one that permanently cuts chords between me and the father. Thank you for taking the time to read this. Love and Light