Dreamer, it's not just reciting words. Magic is not because of spells; spells are because people have created different methods of doing magic. At its root, magic is the creation of change in compliance with one's will, and there are so very many methods of exercising one's will to influence nom-physical aspects of either one's life or an external circumstance. Not every type of desire may be manifest, as reality has its limits. And not every attempt at doing magic is successful, either, for various reasons.
It is my personal opinion that the most effective work is internal to one's self: improving behaviors, attitudes, thought patterns. There are some external things which may be affected, but few can be out-right controlled. Amd trying to create a change in another person may be futile, though there is the possibility of influence.