I don't quite understand the point of this post. If a deity makes an appearance to you it is not only a very personal and private experience that in my opinion should not be shared publicly like this, but it is generally an open invitation for you to accept or deny the invitation to work with them.
My patroness is Morrigan so it really irks me when people freak out around deities that involve death. If you are interested in spirits, guess how you get to be a spirit again? That's right, you die. Death to them is our life and their existence is real life. It's a matter of perspective. They are not dead, they are very much alive. Death is a transition from one world to the next, whether that transition is from their world born into ours or our world reborn back into theirs. Deities and beings over death are no more or less dangerous than any other higher being. In fact many of them are fantastic healers as well because they know how to handle the most damaged spirits. At least with them you can feel secure that your soul is protected and well taken care of even in the worst circumstances.
"Dying is easy, it's living that scares me." from the song "Cold" by Annie Lennox
Yeah...showing my age with that quote. =P