Hello, darling! I'm sorry to hear that your life has been so tumultuous.
I'm not going to sit here and go on about how love spells are unethical. The truth is that they are one of the most complicated forms of spells to execute even for very adept magicians who have been practicing for a long time. I'm not calling your skill into question, either.
I found that there isn't anywhere near enough literature (that doesn't come from phony spellcaster sites) about how love spells work and their external manifestations. You might want to read this essay about how love spells work, it'll really help your understanding:
I hope that helps you further insight into your situation.
One of the main problems with your approach is that you aren't focusing on the love that exists between you and your beloved. You are creating discord in his life both overtly and covertly. If you didn't come right out and tell him about the spell (which would be a HUGE, HUGE mistake), he probably senses that your malice is impacting his life in a negative way that doesn't involve your direct action in the physical realm. I'm not trying to shove any morals down your throat. I'm just explaining why your approach was probably ineffective. Thinking about your relationship with him while having the other women even remotely in your thoughts can cause cross-contamination.
If you want the vinegar jar spells to keep on (which they probably are and are probably causing problems in the lives of the women in them that you didn't foresee), bury them in a cemetery. If you go this route, *BE SURE TO LEAVE AN OFFERING, A VERBAL SOLICITATION OF PERMISSION, AND BE SURE TO SAY THANK YOU. In Hoodoo culture, they leave coins as offerings and refer to the practice of getting graveyard dirt as "buying graveyard dirt." Be warned that graveyard dirt is also a powerful blocking agent so use that knowledge however you feel fit. If not, then empty the contents somewhere that is NOT on your property.
HOWEVER, since you've already clearly slung enough spells at this guy and these gals to make them miserable, I think you should now go the sweeter route and do a honey jar or sugar bowl spell in order to "sweeten" your relationship with him as well as highlight your most desirable qualities. Like I said, keep the thoughts entirely revolved around yourself and your beloved.
If your using Aphrodite as the deity to make this spell happen, I recommend researching her host of demideities (known as "erotes") to be more specific about the kind of love you want. For instance, there's Anteros, the god of requited love as well as Hedone/Voluptas, the goddess of pleasure and lust with good consequence. I definitely love Aphrodite and recognize the enormity of Her power, but I've noticed that drawing Her power from more specialized aspects tends to get better and more exact results.
That, or you can stop at this point. I've learned that if you hve to keep slinging love spells at someone in order to maintain something that resembles a connection, then it is a waste of energy and simply isn't worth it.