I'm new, you know. But, if you're looking for a strong perfume. My favorite, and I've been complimented more than I can count, is eau de parfum Boucheron, it's from Paris. it's sultry. i've been told I wear it well, but try a spray of it, either you love it or not. Incense, we use all different kinds. The walmart stuff (Nag Champa), makes my fiance slightly ill, do i have to get the non irritant stuff, or just keep it out of his pathway.