hi guys. first post on here and i would be so so greatful on any of your thoughts/oppinions regarding what im going to ask.
Well ive heard a few differing opinions regarding the "time limit" when casting love spells. Somebody i spoke to used the phrase "strike when the irons hot.........or the spells just dont work if you leave time between breaking up and say a few weeks or months down the line.
Then ive also heard that it doesnt matter when the spell is performed i.e could be any time after the break up, expecially if it was along relationship.
Common sence speaks to me here and says to do it fairly soon but i also think giving some space and time before you perform the spell...expecially when there has been hurt, bad words between the two parties.
What are our thoughts and such on this topic? thankyou for taking the time to read this and even more thanks if ou have replied :) :)
Re: is there time???
By: Kiva / Beginner Mar 24, 2013
Post # 6
It does not matter on the variation of the answers what matters is what you chose to do.
Most people dont like it and says its wrong to take away someones will while others could care less about ethics and would do a spell like that any way.Me I could care less on the ethics I would tell the person the pro and cons of a situation and let them decide on whatever they will.
After all a person can preach till they turn blue in the face and have no effect on any one.I prefer not to waste my time so pros and cons it is.
Also there are many other spells besides love spells that may work in ones benefit such as an attraction spell,enchantment spells and friendship spells.
But these are just my thoughts.Sorry if i upset anyone with what i just said.
No problems Kiva this is not Kindegarten and we should all be able to make appropriate risk-return judgements. This is a magical forum, we should all say what we think.
To the OP - perhaps read the post in here regarding Karma and then you will be better able to make this decision.
None of us know your situation as well as you do and I really feel for you.
My view on this topic is to use magick to attract your twin flame, or soul mate to you. If this guy is your soul mate then he will return. If he does not return, then you should continue the workings to attract what you want. This could make you very happy in the longer term.
Trying to get somebody back who has left you is a hopeless business. Magic sometimes works in very unexpected ways as often many things must change to bend a persons will. Unless you are prepared to use powerful and baneful means such as Voudou or Other methods I won't go into, which require sigificant experience, it's not straightforward.
Workings for healing are also positive. As the full moon is imminent, why not take advantage of that?
Regardless of the ethical questions, there is the psychology that none seem to consider until after they've gained some experience with Magick. Risk/ROI is a good way to look at it, since DarkM00n brought it up.
I'll be taking a few of your quotes, rubysoho, and answering them.
"Then ive also heard that it doesnt matter when the spell is performed i.e could be any time after the break up, expecially if it was along relationship."
There's a common word used to describe such relationships, "Rebound". No one wants to be the rebound after a break-up. You have to help them through their baggage, when often they don't even know what that baggage is themselves. Then, after you spend all the time and energy helping them get to that "better place", emotionally, they begin to start assessing what they want and need. Often, they find it's not you. Otherwise, "rebound" wouldn't get such a bad stigma in the dating world.
So where's the return on investment here? You spend the time and money wooing them with your spell, then the time and money helping them work through their issues, and then they will more than likely leave you once they realize that they're in a better emotional state enough to see things clearly. You're likely to come out in the negative and have to begin this whole process again.
"Common sence speaks to me here and says to do it fairly soon but i also think giving some space and time before you perform the spell...expecially when there has been hurt, bad words between the two parties."
You should give them space. If you want to let them know that you're there for them if they need to talk or get out of their sweatpants and cheetoh-stained couch, that's one thing. If you're going to go casting a spell on them the first time they've had a good day in weeks, that's another. How will they know what they're really feeling?
And now we're back to the ethical questions of the subject, which is why most will only suggest you cast a generic "help me meet the right person" spell. That way, you don't know if the person is with you for you, because magick led them to you, or only with you until they wake up from their stupor and figure out their real emotions regarding you. It helps keep you from the inevitable guilt that'd come by casting a spell on a specific person.
Regardless of your ethical considerations, practicality should always be taken into consideration. Everyone's time is precious. Don't waste it by being impatient. ROI is always important in anything. So get the most out of it.