Look I'm not trying to start a fight. If you have a wolf spirit inside you it doesn't make you a werewolf. The closet thing it would be would be a Therian and even then you can't turn into a wolf. Transformation into an animal form on the astral plane is possible so that's about as close to becoming a wolf as you will get. You posted this asking for help I'm trying to give you helpful advice and I'm letting you know that you're not going to turn into an animal. For someone that so desperately needed help you seem pretty upset to get what most would consider good news.
but the thing is, i've been lookin for someone a wolf, a wolf that i once loved and still do but i can't find him and i've found out that i was once a wolf, a female wolf who was human by day wolf by night but i still can't find the wolf i once loved and i'm a male human still lookin for him.
Human by day, wolf by night? I remember that story from one of my classes back when I was still in school, although the character was a male and he was wolf by day, not night. He broke the curse when he was reunited with his love if I am not mistaken. However, this is just an old greek story. It is a good story, but its fictional through and through.
Human transmutation or augmentation through magic is theoretically possible just like it is theoretically possible through science, but with such a high percentage of improbability that you might as well say impossible. I get chest pains from the moon, but its nothing magical or werewolf related. I simply get chest pains because of some fluid imbalance in my lungs and the effects that the gravitational pull of the moon affects me.
I love wolves and I love romance, but I leave the stories to the books because trying to bring a fantasy into magic is like bringing a corpse to a wedding. It doesn't belong and it insults everyone who is here because they want to be around fellow practitioners of the art.