Ive had the ability to use many physical forms of magic since i was 8 such as wind control object manipulation and other physical forms but only when I'm around my casting partner Whendy. We depend on each other to supply a soul link to the other to cast , but when I try and cast alone the results are poor and I need help
Then go to Whendy, work together to enchant two wearable objects with the energy and intent of the other. Basically get Whendy to enchant one abject for you, then you enchant one abject for them. It should make the connection easier and allow you to at least do better with your abilities. This is a rather loose way of making things work. With your situation it is rather difficult to perfect without proper analysis.