Use the right oils (there are lessons on here on which ones are right) to dress the candle (I can help more with the details on how this is done if you mail me). Three rose buds. Cinnamon sprinkles around on your altar. Make sure your words are specific, clear, and straight from your heart. Make sure your visualization is clear and uninterrupted. Make sure your emotions are not all over the place (I can help with this too). Use as many elements as you can. Practice the ritual 9 days in a row.