I've been looking around and notice that everyone wants to "control" a certain thing, whether it be energy, elements, etc.,and I know its human nature to want to control things, but I just want to let you know you can't control every single thing that you want. Life isn't built that way, you must learn to deal with it and work with it. It's like me telling a random person to do something for me, then complaining later that they just walked away. You do not order things around, you work with it to get to what you want. You must work a little and give a little effort. You do not "Master" anything, you just learn to work with it, connect with it easier.
I agree with you Ardor, but that's why some of us are here, to help others learn to work with the aspects that we interest ourselves in and bit more.
I love learning, teaching, sharing, and helping; and I love fire. If a member is willing to learn to control fire, then I will show them some pointers on manipulating it. If a member wants to control it without working, then I will show them the harsh reality of it.
Control is word that means many things, along with manipulation, is does not necessarily mean absolute authority over something with no questions asked. It can mean something else, such as working with it to gain what you desire.