I'm sorry but I find it very hard to believe an entire congregation has openly admitted to hating God and have self love issues. Perhaps it was a case of what she "thought" others felt.
There are people from all walks of faith who are in denial of depression, and frankly, if one is looking so desperatly to be loved by their God, it's not a matter of religious misplacement, but a case of severe psychological issues. Whatever God you choose to be your diety will love you, whether or not you choose to feel that love and love yourself in return is entirely up to you.
I know some people have bad experiences in the church...I did not.
I was raised Catholic for the better part of my life. My favorite Priest openly admitted to befriending Wiccans and Witch's not in an attempt to convert them, but understand God's children better.
The priest who baptized me was actually the reason I left the church and religion entirely, though he doesn't know it.
While in religion class one day he was asking questions and my answer for everything was Jesus. At one point he looked at me and said " Jesus isn't the answer to every question ". Everyone laughed and in my mind something simply clicked. I walked away from the church and the Christian God with no anger for them at all.
When I was Christian, I was happy. I loved God, God loved me and that was just that. My views of who and what that God is has evolved obviously, but I don't hate that God or the church. Infact, if it weren't for them...I may not be on the path I am now.
I was happy as a Christian and I'm happy as a non Christian.