|The Idiot's Guide to Understanding Me
Disclaimer:: None of the opinions stated herein are anyone else's, nor would I force them on anyone else. They are mine and mine alone... and I've come to them through the years of my life and my life experiences. If you disagree, /cheers to you. That's you. This is me. I'll let you be you, provided you let me .. be ME.
Family is important to me. I don't always agree with them, or get along with them, but I still love them. My mother and I have had our issues, and spent most my younger years at each other's throats -- sometimes literally... but we've come to an understanding, and get along alright for the most part now. My dad is a character all his own, and I respect him for that. My brother and I are close, we may not always agree, and will be there for each other always
I don't make friends easily, it seems. Or maybe it is, if I do, they're just not suited to be friends, or we just drift apart.. who knows. As it is, I have very few, and don't really feel I'm lacking. I consider a friend.. as someone who will be there through anything and everything. Someone who cares, and is willing to show it, ask how things are, commiserate if things aren't going well, and offer advice if asked for. A friend is not part-time. A friend doesn't hide things from a friend. A friend doesn't need to hold the same opinion as you.. or even agree with you, but they're willing to listen and try to understand anyway. Friends can be trusted with secrets, will console when necessary, and expects only the same thing in return. A friend doesn't turn away if you are upset or angry or sad, and a friend doesn't judge. Friends are not there to tell you what to think, they're not there to make you happy or "better". Friends aren't a bandaid when things hurt, they're simply someone to talk to. "Friends" is a reciprocal term. It's not one-sided, and it's not conditional. It is not based on age, location, sex, religious or sexual preference, looks, or anything else. It just is. It is not vindictive, it is not forceable. Being friends with someone means taking into consideration the other person, and being there no matter what, no matter your mood, no matter where or when. It means being honest, and straight-forward, and caring. Honestly, truly caring. If you aren't those things, you aren't my friend.
Sure there's something out there. A higher power, if you want to call it that. Do I want to have your religion? Nope. Do I respect you for having it? Yes. Do I feel everyone has a right to believe whatever they want? Sure. What I don't agree with is trying to make anyone else believe the same thing you do. Trying to get them to understand, sure. But pushing it on someone is a big no-no. I believe in the supernatural, I don't believe in the "big bang" theory. I believe things like the bible, and many of histories legends and myths are probably based on a grain of truth. Do I know what it is? Nope. Am I going to go looking for it? Again, nope. I believe in spirits, ghosts, and even the powers of the mind to do amazing things. I do not subscribe to any specific religion, nor do I intend to, nor do I feel empty or at a loss because of it. What I believe simply is
How to Piss Me Off::
I'm pretty tough to offend or anger. But there are some things that will get me every time. Insulting me or my family, or hurting them is one. Another is lying to me.. or betraying me. If you lie to a friend of mine, or my family, I'll take it with a grain of salt. Unless I was there to hear it, it's still hearsay, and I'll make my own opinion. If it's towards me, it's unforgiveable. The other big way to tick me off is to not believe me. I don't "just say" things to be polite, or nice. When I say something, I mean it. I don't necessarily think about it ahead of time, or say it the way I mean it, or even say it well enough to be understood... but never-the-less, I mean it. If you don't understand me, or think I said something to hurt you on purpose, ask if it's true before you go and assume. I've lost more friends because they assumed they knew what I meant, and they didn't. And they never asked. Their loss