You will need to set aside several hours to do this, preferably on a Friday evening, when the moon is waning. Switch off the phone and make sure you will not be disturbed. If you are with friends, sit quietly in a
circle to create a sacred space that you will all enjoy.
Light a pink candle, one for each person present, and some incense. Look at the piece of paper on which you have listed your doubts and fears. Do you need to add to it? Be honest with yourself. As each feeling surfaces, give it a color. For instance, if you feel sadness give it a brown or black color; If you are feeling intense rage, give it a bright red slash. Then write beside the colors all the experiences and people that it represents. Share your feelings out loud with those who are with you. When you have finished, complete the evening by joining hands
together. Put all your fears and doubts into the center of the circle by saying them out loud, and then imagine them being transformed by the beams of love from the universe. Keep your paper with you for three days and three nights. Read and reread it, adding to it whenever you feel it is
necessary. On the third night, which will be Monday, the moon's day, set up your altar to create a sacred space. This is a very powerful ceremony and again, you may need a couple of hours in which to perform it, especially if you are with friends.
Light the candles and incense, and sit quietly for a few minutes. For the final time, read your list, and allow the color of each negative thought to come into your mind's eye. Gently release them as you breathe each one out of your body. Then call each person who has been a negative influence in your life into your mind's eye and release them, by saying out loud an incantation along the following lines:
, I unconditionally forgive you for all the hurt you have caused me and I release you from my life. Thank you for the lesson, but it is time to move on. From this day on, I draw only positive and supportive relationships to me.
Keep saying the above until you feel you have really forgiven all those who have caused you hurt in the past. Now you are ready to burn your list. Light it carefully with the candle flame, place it in a heatproof dish, and watch it turn to ash. As you do so, say the following
All those thoughts that churn
That stop my love from becoming alive
Then take the ash outside and either scatter it into the night air or bury it in the ground saying:
Go, dark thoughts
Scatter far and wide
Into the night
Be thou gone
So mote it be.
Return to the altar and give yourself time to reflect on the magnitude of what you have done. It is hard for someone to have a healthy, loving relationship with you unless you love and respect yourself, so be proud of
who you are and learn to regognize that every relationship in your life is a reflection of your own level of self love. Those who open their hearts to learn forgiveness of themselves and others, break free to draw in a higher conscious level of relationship.
Allow the candles to burn themselves out completely. The spell for letting go is complete.